Don’t let anyone change you. When I met my husband, I stopped wearing nail polish, lipstick, makeup anything about me that he didn’t like.
We have to be careful that we don’t try to change others. It is hard enough to change ourselves. Let people be who they are. Either you like them or you don’t. It’s wrong to try to change others. It’s as if we think we are perfect and they are not. And if they do these things they will be perfect too.
If people need to change-maybe because they are doing something that is hurting themselves, we still can’t make them change. We need to look at ourselves. Of course, we can be there to support them in anyway we can. Often people will rebel and go against anything we suggest.
You are enough. You have to be secure in who you are. You have to believe in yourself and in who you are. If not, you will constantly try to change for others. I am not saying you shouldn’t change, but only you know that. You do what is best for you.
What I know about changing, because someone wants you to change, is you will look around and you won’t recognize yourself. You will be someone you don’t want to be. And you will have to work to get back to yourself.
A guy I was in love with years ago, said “You are beautiful but you have this gap in your teeth. If you get that fixed, you will be perfect.” Well this led to a lot of terrible things including me being embarrassed to smile. I love to smile, laugh and be happy. It took me a long time before I was able to smile again.
Be the best version of you. Reaffirm yourself. In one of Brian Tracy’s books he says say “I like myself. I like myself.” I have said it thousands of times. There is value in constantly reaffirming yourself. If you don’t approve and validate yourself, no one else will. This is your responsibility. Take it seriously. Remember no one is perfect.
God make you and “God don’t make no junk.”
Everyone has stuff they need to change.
